To clear things up I'd like to say that in my opinion the "ideal Lolita" does not exist. It is a concept, and like all ideals, not meant to exist in real life, not to mention in a human being. As such, we all have flaws, but that's what makes our charm.
I can distinguish two types of people. Those who consider Lolita as a lifestyle, because they have a personality which corrisponds to their idea of what Lolita is, whether a Romantic or childish, innocent vision of life; and those who see Lolita only as a fashion, and therefore may possibly have a personality not at all Romantic or whatever can be seen as linked to a "Lolita mentality". Those two categories are neither right nor wrong, they just have a different way of understanding Lolita, and that's perfectly fine. People from both sides have flaws and qualities.
So please, I sincerly wish these topics do not lead to any drama, since they were basically made for fun. They did highlight two different visions of Lolita, however we should not start arguing about "true Lolitas" and "fake Lolitas". Some people here have the experience of the Goth community and culture, and know how this silly little argument is annoying. No matter how we perceive Lolita, we all share one thing, the love for beautiful clothes, so let's enjoy this! ^____^ I apologize again if anyone was annoyed by the two previously mentioned topics, though I didn't directly initiate any of them.
Long live Lolita! :)
