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I am breaking by force my white sheet syndrome, because I am human...


Okay. Last time I wrote my opinion about something, people got what I said in a wrong way. I was very frustrated about it, people bitching me not for what I wrote, but for what I didn't write. A moderator blocked the answers at my comment, thus keeping me from trying to defend myself from, maybe, girls in need of catiness, or simply misunderstanding girls..."Not so long after, I realised WHY I had so much difficulty expressing myself in english. I have a naturally very rich vocabulary (in french) and a special "tournure de style" or handwriting. When it comes to translate my thoughts from french to english, it is for me like if you would try to put an elephant...in your pocket. In reality, I express myself in a very mature way so I can explain accurately what I mean. On this community, when I express myself, I look like a total 12 years old noob. There is no word to explain how it is frustrating. SO, after that said comment and it's answers, after the realisation of my problem, I went into a huge "white sheet syndrome", I don't know if that's the correct expression  but it's the exact translation of "syndrome de la page blanche". It means that I was unable to write anymore, like if I was paralysed...I thought of posting here and saying "Ah, so I'm blackpedal, he? Then  before saying that I am blackpedal, start to say that Baby is blackpedal, since they said exactly what I meant : "Attention au hâle"!"

So today I'm breaking by force this syndrome since I saw something that really hurted my heart, I saw in loli_secrets a girl saying "My naturally tan skin is what keeps me from wearing lolita. After this comment, I felt that my skin color was a SIN". 
[Before continuing on this post, I wanted some quotes to help me but wow, my special adress for lj got all it's mail deleted...great X_X]
When I saw that, my heart jumped out of pain, I still can't believe that my words were that misunderstood. Actually, the met-in-real-life lolita I admire the most is Ingrid from Montreal, and she is Black. I am almost anti-social so I don't search the company of others at my school (anyway, who would like a big living pink candy or a victorian widow-like freak as friend?) but still, there are two haitians that I almost like being with and they are the only ones. I was, oh god, I was not saying that naturally dark-skinned people can't be lolitas! :( God, I just can't believe that it sorted out that bad. 

In my opinion, lolita is not only a fashion but it has a basic mentality to it. Even if some fashion lolitas take an infinite pleasure of destroying that part of the Lolita, I still think that lolita is a culture, still young, but obviously one. In fact, I think that the growing popularity of lolita is due to a reaction against the mediocrity of our current society. By mediocrity, I mean hypersexualisation especially, but the popularity of drugs and alcoolism too, the violence and vulgarity too. In our society the [act of] "sun-tanning" (I asked my english teacher about it, there is no word to distinguish artificial and natural sun tan :( ) is a symbol (because symbols are everywhere and have meanings, it's just that some people are too closed-minded to see them) of sexuality, of sexiness, in the general view of the mainstream. Lolitas, do you agree with the view of women beauty by the mainstream? You know, thin, big breasts, -unnatural- sun-tan, blond and horny? A sexual object? I think that if you would agree with that, you wouldn't be wearing lolita clothes.  Why the parasols? (is it really the good word for ombrelle? anyway.) Why would Baby the stars shine bright say "Attention au hâle"? Because UNNATURAL sun-tanning doesn't go with the lolita ideals? and I think that since (in my opinion) lolita is in reaction to the hypersexualisation of our society (I'm not saying that lolita culture ban sex X_X, just in case you would think that). Of course, I do not have the absolute truth, but it is still my opinion from my observations and research on the culture. I don't think that we can be sure on anything on this matter, since there is no way to be perfectly objective.

*sigh* Then again, I am...so sorry, to have hurt someone about this, I really didn't wanted to...You can be a wonderful lolita, you being from the north pole or from Mars planet. You can be a wonderful lolita, wearing brand or not. You can be a wonderful lolita, being obese or "Skeletor Lolita". No thing that you can't change should keeps you from being a wonderful lolita. Because what makes you lolita, is here <3 as Takemoto Novala said "A princess in jeans is still a princess."

For the one I hurt in spite of myself...I feel like crap and maybe that's what I am, I never wanted someone to feel bad because of it's natural skin color...we are what we are, please forgive me for my lack of clearness. :(</lj-cut>

[Edit:] I will try to answer most of you, but maybe it will take a lot of time since to write this I took 2h30...

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