Given the heated discussion of a topic that has just been deleted I really feel that I have to comment on the whole idea of making a post > not listening to anyone's opinions = deleting the post like it never existed.
I know a lot of topics here on egl
are related to the fashion on a very shallow level but that's because Lolita is basically a fashion first and foremost. However I'm sure we are all aware that although Lolita is a fashion it's a very personal fashion and a lifestyle choice for many; hell there are frequent posts about dealing with personal relationships and Lolita because of the strong feelings we have towards the clothing we love.
I for one am pleased when a topic besides photo requests and brand measurments gets posted here because it gets the community talking and believe it or not this community is capable of having an intelligent discussion without wank or drama. (The recent deleted post on religion is a perfect example of this; I didn't witness any shameless name calling or wank but still it was deleted.) And while some confuse a heated debate and opinions with wank any troublemakers are weeded out quickly and dealt with by the mods.
It seems that over the years many relevant topics have not been posted for fear of drama and backlash but you have no need to fear anyone else's opinion if you're open minded or courteous enough to agree that although you may not agree with someone's views on a personal level you respect them enough to understand that they are capable of having their own views even if they do not coincide with your own.
I feel that topics posted to egl
where the opening post encourages discussion on a very small area of a topic and then gets later deleted by the original poster is more a post to be seen rather than a topic to be made and encourage discussion amongst the members here. But why should one make a post with the guise of a 'discussion?'
The thing is that egl
is a community with over 10 thousand members and even if only half of those people are active that's still 5000 people with opinions and views that are different from your own so the mere idea of trying to make a discussion where you comment on one very small part of an issue without branching out into other areas is basically impossible.
So what's the point of this post? I wanted to express my distaste for people who post topics without actually wanting actual informative, intelligent discussion only to later delete them when they feel that no-one is listening to their
views without firstly accepting that there are others out there. If you do not want people to actually discuss an issue you're posting then don't make the post. You're not only embarrassing yourself but you're disrespecting the many members here who have taken the time to write you a reply sharing their own views.
I want to encourage more discussion here on this community, even the recent post about the very tentative weight issue in Lolita has proven that a discussion about a very sensitive topic can be full of some fantastically written comments devoid of wank and name-calling. One shouldn't be scared of making a post here especially when all there is to fear is the opinions of others.
So I ask egl
, surely I am not the only member to feel this way? (Sorry if there are any grammar / spelling errors, it's early and I'm sick.)