First, I'm terrified of trying to join the lolita community. If BTB is any indication, there are a lot of mean-spirited people, but there are a couple nice ones that want to help. I'm scared that even if I try my best, because I can't wear brand, Bodyline, or TaoBao OPs and blouses because I have 45cm shoulders, because I'm new and might not get things right on the first few tries, because I may or may not have worn a white blouse originally intended for a Sonia Nevermind cosplay as part of a lolita coord, because I like cosplay as well as lolita, because I only have a few items that are officially lolita, and because I like both brand clothing and indie/TaoBao instead of one over the other, people are going to call me ita. I know that probably sounds silly, but it's true.
I really want to start a YouTube channel that focuses on gaming, lolita, and general nerdiness, and my plan was to wear cosplay and lolita (not together, mind you, barring the blouse mentioned above) while recording myself. I kind of think that I'd be getting hate for that though, and I'm worried that people might get mad, even though I'm not trying to say that lolita is cosplay or anything like that. It just makes more sense to wear lolita for the videos where I'm talking about lolita, and cosplay for the videos where I'm talking about gaming and nerdy stuff.
Also, am I the only one bothered by people who say that you can make any old item loliable? I mean, I can understand blouses, accessories, shoes, and that sort of thing. But you can't just take any skirt from The Salvation Army, or your old bedsheet, or something and make it lolita. Handmade can work, but there are some things that don't fit with the aesthetic. It's not as expensive as some think, but not cheap either.
What is everyone's general experience with the lolita community? Is there advice you'd give to a newcomer, especially one who plans on mostly sticking in the sweet and classic styles?
Also, if this is the wrong place, could someone kindly point me to the right place to post this?
Thank you in advance for any help y'all may give!