*drags out dead horse*
This one is going in the memories/rules folks, so pay attention:
How To Post On egl
Ask yourself the following:
1) Is my post relevant to Lolita fashion and/or culture?
2) Does it seem as if my post/question/opinion piece has never been expressed or discussed before?
3) Have I checked the memories, used LJ Seek, or used Almighty Googlefu in regards to my post/question/opinion piece?
If the answer is "no" to any of these questions, STOP. DO NOT POST. DO NOT PASS GO AND COLLECT $200.
If the answer is yes to all of these, then ask yourself the following:
1) Have I used decent spelling/grammar/punctuation in my post? (There is a difference between being a non-native English speaker and being lazy. Many non-native speakers post more intelligible entries than native speakers.)
2) Is my post free of controversy, unreasonable subjects, and/or things that will upset people?
3) Have I used logic when creating the post?
4) Have I eliminated the majority of pigeon-Japanese, emoticons, and other "Internetese" elements from my post.
If the answer is "no" to any of these questions, just don't post. The difference between posting something for debate and posting something to be persnickety is very obvious. Posts for debate use well-reasoned logic and diplomacy. Posts to start flame wars and annoy people are usually based on sensationalism and/or troll tactics.Using proper language and grammar is a sign of respect for both the community and yourself. And using logic is very important because people are less likely to dismiss your opinions if they sound like they are based on solid information.
As for romanized "pigeon-Japanese" and emoticons. Excessive use of these really makes you look silly. There is a place for them but you should use them like sauce to lightly accent your sentences rather than slathering everything you say in '^_^' and 'lol' and 'desu ne' and 'watashi likes'. Using romanized Japanese when you don't really speak much makes no sense and excessive emoticons just become irritating. We don't have to be formal all the time in the community, but the literacy and writing levels should at least be at the third year of secondary school.
The same rules apply to commenting on posts. In fact, they apply even more so to comments. I've seen some comments recently which have just been flat-out stupid, deliberately nasty, or way off-topic. It's good to chat and make friends with one another, but you need to be somewhat socially savvy when posting. Think of egl as a giant party in which the main focus is Lolita culture and fashion. When you chat with other people at the party, make your comments relevant and interesting so that the conversation flows well.
As a final note, I'm really going to start coming down on people who make comments about body types on both sides of the spectrum.
1) Slender doesn't mean anorexic. Yes there are slender people who have eating disorders. But the reason why it is called a disorder is because it is not the norm. Most slender people are slender because of a combination of genetics and dietary/exercise habits. Give a slender person the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming that they are not eating or just "lucky".
2) Weight is a number. Size is a number. They do not define a person's health. There are slender people with high cholesterol. There are stocky/curvy people who are at the ideal of health. Bone structures vary from person to person and lots of people wear larger sizes simply because they have heavy skeletons or are taller than average. People carry their weight differently, and thinking that someone is fat because they can't fit into something is foolish and illogical.
3) Most people who are overweight are perfectly aware of this fact. Many of them are also aware of how they could potentially lose weight. It is their choice to take these steps or not. It is your choice to form a personal opinion about that choice. But keep it out of this community because none of us want to hear it.
Finally, use courtesy to one another. Even if a person is discourteous to you, it would demean you and lower you to respond in kind. Remaining courteous to someone even if you dislike them intensely is a sign of true character. We all lose our tempers at times, but if you can, hold on to diplomacy even in that moment. You'll feel a lot better if you can just keep control, and it usually results in good things since nothing frustrates a discourteous person more than being left to wallow in the muck by themselves.
Now go out and enjoy the winter, people!