Hey. So, long story short; after admiring this fashion for a few years, I finally caved and bought some lolita stuff. Trouble is, I'm a bit of a weenie and won't wear it. I love it, it's pretty and adorable, but I pay far too much attention to those judging eyes, and it's what keeps me from wearing the clothes I've bought. Common issue, I'd imagine.
My boyfriend and friends are very open minded and accepting and they love my stuff - yet they've never seen me IN my outfits, because I refuse to go out in them - but it's the glares and sneers by random passers by that get to me. Truthfully, some of the 'in' fashion today, like hipster style, is very unappealing to me - just not something I'd wear myself -, yet I'm not going to ogle the people who wear it with ridicule and disgust or mock them for their fashion choices; it's their business, not mine. However, not everyone thinks this way, and while I won't judge anyone for what they wear, you bet your sweet frilly lace other people will judge without even a second thought or remorse. Everyone else finds that fashion to be a norm, and what I think is nice is gonna get me under the weird radar. I'm dreadfully shy and any sort of stare - for good or bad reasons- gives me the willies.
My question is how do you get the confidence to go out in lolita?
My coords are sweet. A little too sweet. Like, if I were to go out, I'm afraid people will think "Wow, wear clothes for your own age, sicko." But I just love them, that's why I bought them.. I think maybe leaning toward classic, but in a casual way, would be a safe bet instead, no? Because 'classy' is in right now; I could maybe pull that off. It's just the petticoat poof that stands out - I love that poof with a passion, though.
I haven't been able to find any classic/casual stuff that I like more than the pastel lacy frills that would give me social anxiety. Any suggestions?
I've found myself already trying to sell the stuff I JUST bought, before doing anything more than trying them on once. I think that's sad. I would love to not be a wimp, because I really like the fashion; I've already got things on my to-buy list, haha. But I can't keep spending money on clothes I'll never wear. So what to do? What do you do? Do the strange looks bother you? Do you even get those looks?
This was long. I'm sorry.