Street smart in lolita?
I heard many stories about how girls/guys dressed in lolita go about their daily lives but are harassed by words and gestures, or even been touched by complete strangers. Now see I'm a person whose been in my house most of the time or spend time outside with friends or family in lolita and never been completely alone. Hearing these stories frighten me because I don't believe I have the enough experience or completely understand when strangers are trying to be harmful. Like I guess you can say I'm naive so I wouldn't understand if a stranger is trying to be friendly with me or he's trying to get something from me. And I wouldn't want to be in a situation where it'll be dangerous.
Being in lolita is way different then normal street wear so obviously someone dressed in lolita would receive a lot more attention.But how would you deal with situations by degrees of harassment like being yelled at for being a slut, whore, etc etc. to being touched sexual or harmfully?
There are times where you can't bring someone with you and plus sometimes you have to go somewhere by yourself. Cause well, that's not always being realistic. And there are times when you would like to dress lolita when you're going somewhere.
I don't want to be stripped away of my freedom of dressing however I want when I go somewhere like the city or a shopping center, but I don't want to be hurt because I'm naive and I don't understand. I don't want to be scared of the world just because what might happen but rather be able to live my life and know how to be careful.
Now obviously this is no different then being in normal clothes and wandering around outside but being in normal clothes vs being in lolita I feel we get treated differently and because we are so "out there" we place ourselves in danger of harmful people.
To sum it all up (because my long rant is long and confusing):
How do you deal with being harassed verbally and physically?
How do you know when someone wants to harass you or harm you? What signs do they give off?
Being in lolita is way different then normal street wear so obviously someone dressed in lolita would receive a lot more attention.But how would you deal with situations by degrees of harassment like being yelled at for being a slut, whore, etc etc. to being touched sexual or harmfully?
There are times where you can't bring someone with you and plus sometimes you have to go somewhere by yourself. Cause well, that's not always being realistic. And there are times when you would like to dress lolita when you're going somewhere.
I don't want to be stripped away of my freedom of dressing however I want when I go somewhere like the city or a shopping center, but I don't want to be hurt because I'm naive and I don't understand. I don't want to be scared of the world just because what might happen but rather be able to live my life and know how to be careful.
Now obviously this is no different then being in normal clothes and wandering around outside but being in normal clothes vs being in lolita I feel we get treated differently and because we are so "out there" we place ourselves in danger of harmful people.
To sum it all up (because my long rant is long and confusing):
How do you deal with being harassed verbally and physically?
How do you know when someone wants to harass you or harm you? What signs do they give off?