- including or not limited to various forms of sexual harassment, as if somehow our bows and frills are an invitation for abuse. The Slut Walk phenomenon has become a movement that has been trying to address the issue that the way someone dresses is never an invitation or an excuse for such behaviour.
More info on how Slut Walk came about:
'On January 24, 2011 Constable Michael Sanguinetti spoke on crime prevention at a York University safety forum. He said: "women should avoid dressing like sluts in order not to be victimized." Co-founders Sonya Barnett and Heather Jarvis decided to use the word slut in their response. They observe that historically, "slut" has had negative connotations, and that their goal is to redeem the term. They write that women "are tired of being oppressed by slut-shaming; of being judged by our sexuality and feeling unsafe as a result." They continue: "Being in charge of our sexual lives should not mean that we are opening ourselves to an expectation of violence, regardless if we participate in sex for pleasure or work."'
The 'asking for it' mentality is one we as a community experience but by dressing in Lolita we are not giving anyone permission to look up our skirts, or yell at us or take photos of us without our permission. As Lolitas we also suffer the negative connotation of the word 'Lolita' in the West in association with Nabokov's book of the same name.
I bring this discussion up because there is a Slut Walk being organised in my area and I really want to go decked out in my frills. (I think some of the other Lolitas in my area may also be interested in going.) I'll also be making up some signs but I'd love to make some Lolita-specific ones. One idea I've been thinking of is this:
I was just wondering if any Lolitas have attended a Slut Walk while dressed in Lolita? Do you mind sharing your experiences? Have photos or Slut Walk signs you want to share?