Losing friends over Lolita

One of my friends posted on Facebook, going on about how her friends should all reconsider wearing the style because of the name associated with it. She's essentially calling those who wear it 'japan-obsessed', and ignorant of what the word symbolizes and what it really means. I'm afraid of losing her respect because I happen to like dressing modest, and that's what I've come to believe Lolita fashion to be about. I don't want to lose her friendship, but at the same time, I love the feeling I get when I wear it.

I don't know how to go about telling her that I like the fashion she seems to hate. It's a touchy subject. Should I be direct? Send her a picture of some of my designs? Link her to a full outfit?