meggie_caramel (meggie_caramel) wrote in egl,
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Advice and experience regarding reactions to Lolita

  Hi, I'm new to EGL and wearing Lolita clothes, although I've been deeply interested in the style for the past 4 years.  I searched the posts under the tags for reactions to lolita, but nothing really talked about how often negative reactions occur.     I finally recieved my first lolita dress from Fairy Angel.  It's Baby the Stars shine bright- it's used, but I unwrapped it...and unexpectedly found my dream dress.  It's mint green- green is my favorite color.  It has little roses- and I love roses.  It's a Jumpskirt, and it looks absolutely wonderful with the Meta top I also bought from Fairy angel.  I put it in my closet at my Mother's house, for safekeeping...and didn't put it on. Why?  If I was honest, I would say it was because the first time I ever got up the guts to wear Lolita in public (instead of just parties with my friends) a guy stared at me.  Leering.  And I put my head down and scurried away.  I love that dress.  It's beautiful.  It's perfect.  And..I am so afraid to wear it.  I don't want to be looked at like that...and I'm not so sure why I'm so afraid.  In high school, I wore crazy OTT goth/punk clothes with huge hats and hand-painted shoes.  In my first two years of college, I painted wreaths of flowers in bright eyeliners.  This is  just another way to express what I want to wear...but.  Somehow, being leered at like some kind of prostitute-like I was just there to tempt him- bothers me so much more than anything else I've ever experienced.
Any advice?  How often does it really happen?  Was I just unlucky?  How do you handle it?  Is this going to happen every time I wear my Loli in public?  And what ratio are the "Heidi" or "little Bo Peep" comments (which I find easy to handle) to the pervy, nasty reactions (much harder to handle)?  And...how do you handle the discomfort that comes from being leered at?  How do you react?
Tags: discussion: reactions to lolita
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