Advice and experience regarding reactions to Lolita
Hi, I'm new to EGL and wearing Lolita clothes, although I've been deeply interested in the style for the past 4 years. I searched the posts under the tags for reactions to lolita, but nothing really talked about how often negative reactions occur. I finally recieved my first lolita dress from Fairy Angel. It's Baby the Stars shine bright- it's used, but I unwrapped it...and unexpectedly found my dream dress. It's mint green- green is my favorite color. It has little roses- and I love roses. It's a Jumpskirt, and it looks absolutely wonderful with the Meta top I also bought from Fairy angel. I put it in my closet at my Mother's house, for safekeeping...and didn't put it on. Why? If I was honest, I would say it was because the first time I ever got up the guts to wear Lolita in public (instead of just parties with my friends) a guy stared at me. Leering. And I put my head down and scurried away. I love that dress. It's beautiful. It's perfect. And..I am so afraid to wear it. I don't want to be looked at like that...and I'm not so sure why I'm so afraid. In high school, I wore crazy OTT goth/punk clothes with huge hats and hand-painted shoes. In my first two years of college, I painted wreaths of flowers in bright eyeliners. This is just another way to express what I want to wear...but. Somehow, being leered at like some kind of prostitute-like I was just there to tempt him- bothers me so much more than anything else I've ever experienced. Any advice? How often does it really happen? Was I just unlucky? How do you handle it? Is this going to happen every time I wear my Loli in public? And what ratio are the "Heidi" or "little Bo Peep" comments (which I find easy to handle) to the pervy, nasty reactions (much harder to handle)? And...how do you handle the discomfort that comes from being leered at? How do you react?