I'm wondering, because while I've been researching and following the fashion and collecting dresses for a very, very long time, I rarely go out to a place with lots of lolitas, and when I do, I tend to stick with really standard coords - within one brand, within one colour, and usually within one set. Even though the bulk of my closet is one colour from one brand, I'm very afraid to mix and match across sets - It makes for really limited closet options and after seeing some truly ingenious coords, I want to try them.
So my question is, how do you react when you see someone whose outfit is somewhat off, but not quite ita (maybe they're making an effort, they just seem misinformed?) I know that on d_l the community is usually pretty understanding and will give concrit, but what about in real life? At a convention? At a meetup? When you just walk on the street and see someone dressing in loli?
Do you ignore them, pretend you never saw them, or do you start whispering to your loli friends about how that girl over there isn't wearing the right petticoat, has socks that are falling down her calves, is wearing a Baby blouse with an AP skirt? (The last one - one of my Japanese loli friends told me that was a big no-no in her book...brand loyalty?) <These are the kind of "mistakes" I'm talking about, so you can tell they're /trying/ to get into the fashion, they just... haven't gotten it quite right.
Do you let them know? Is there a polite way to let them know? Is it even polite to let them know?
If you were in that situation (Maybe your makeup smudged, and now you have huge mallgoth eyes, or you're like me who's just starting out, and not really sure of her coordinating abilities), would you want a lolita to come up to you (even if she's not dressed in lolita at the time) and give you coord tips?
I'm personally not sure what I would want. I think that if my petticoat was peeking underneath my skirt or something, then I'd want to be told, but I don't know how I'd feel about a random person telling me how to wear my clothes - I imagine I might get a little defensive.
So, what about you?
EDIT: Thanks for all your responses!
So the brand-mixing line has raised a lot of concerns. I know that there is no stigma against it here, and it seems that even in Japan there isn't much stigma against it. This came from one loli friend whose family lives in Japan, but she is educated overseas. When I talked to her about lolita fashion, this was one thing that she asked me to think about. I brought it up as an example of something that maybe a new loli might do, that other lolis might frown upon. I realize that isn't really the case, so thanks so much for clearing it all up!