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Why do you wear lolita? What is our zeitgeist?

I came across a very interesting and thought provoking discussion on the beat about EGL [link]http://pwbeat.publishersweekly.com/blog/2008/10/01/a-gothic-lolita-speaks/[/link] and found the discussion to be a noteworthy commentary on societal values and what statement lolita is making.

The commenter Mariah was trying to explain what this whole fashion movement is about, and hit my reasons right on the head. I was first attracted to this fashion when I was 14 or 15 just because I thought the dresses and the girls were so beautiful and elegant. I think as I have changed my reasons for liking it have changed from more 'its just pretty to something more along the lines of:

"I think that if we think that things that are considered culturally “girly” are negative, then we need to explore why. Most things that are gendered as female are not considered desirable or strong. And we often categorize women who like makeup or fashion as “superficial”. And yet women who act in ways that are gendered as male are considered to be strident and “bitchy”. Culturally, we can’t win. Because we aren’t allowed to be individuals. And men, by the way, suffer from this same problem of the way we define masculine and feminine. It assumes certain “roles” and doesn’t really do anyone any favors."

I was hugely influenced by my four older brothers and had not a tomboyish, but certainly not 'feminine/girly' childhood, and basically achieved a some where in between for myself. As an adult, I feel that these, I don't know the word for it, but who I am is in some way being challenged by contradictory ideals. At my age I feel that I should be dressing and acting to attract mates, but also preparing to enter the work force and society and need to be professional and functioning.

Mariah also brings up a good point that no matter how you are dressing, fashion plays a big part in body control. It also plays a part in how people react and treat us. There is a difference from how people react to you when you role out of bed and when you take the time to put on make up and do your hair (something that frankly pisses me off). She goes on to say "What women wear has everything to do with how we feel about ourselves. What you see, who sees it, our body shapes, how we alter, conceal, or flatter it."

I also agree with the comment posted by Oliver: "that this movement is a zeitgeist of women reclaiming “girly” -that women don’t have to be masculine, or have masculine qualities, or penis envy:) in order to be considered strong: that it is ok to be girly and with that there are inherent strenghts, albeit different strengths."

I hope this made sense, I know I am not the most articulate person in the world and know very little about sociology. Here is the discussion: Do you agree with these statements? Why do you wear lolita, what does it mean to you? What would you say the zeitgeist of this movement is?
Tags: community: lolita in the media, discussion: lifestyle, discussion: misc
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