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The psychological effects of wearing Lolita...?

So, I got my first Lolita outfit this summer (Yay!), and I'll be posting picture from some critique soon, but before I do...

I've come to start a little discussion on the more psychological effects of wearing Lolita.

I've noticed something weird since I started wearing Lolita. My self confidence has gone from -50% to 110% since wearing it. I use to be a very self-conscious person, despite being pretty bold and talkative. I wasn't shy, just concerned with what people thought about me, even just random strangers.

But every time I wear Lolita... I can walk around with pride; head up in the air instead of staring at the ground, wondering what people thought about me. Now, when people stare, I don’t think "God, there must be something on face! Are my pants unzipped? My makeup smeared?". Instead, I think "Yeah people, keep staring. I look strange. I know. But I like it, and at least I don't look stupid in a baggy t-shirt and falling-of-your-ass-pants like you." It sounds stuck up, but in a way that's better than thinking "I'm ugly", like I used to.

But how can this be? It defies common sense. I'm dressing in a petticoat, blouse, skirt and a headdress- I should be more self-conscious than ever, shouldn’t I? Why do I feel so self confident in this? My own mother said I looked ugly, but just because I was wearing Lolita, her words bounced right off of me, but any other day, I would have gone up to my room and cried..

I also wore Lolita to school, twice, and have noticed something weird. Whenever people call me names, just like with my mom, it bounces right after me, but the day after, when I dress (somewhat) normally, and they make comments about what I wore the days before, it hurts. It really hurts.

Am I the only one experiencing this? Does Lolita seem to have some magical uplifting power for you too, and does it go away when you stop wearing it, or is it just me?

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