Many girls in loli_secret reveal how lolita has made them more confident, or love themselves more, and these shouldn't be secrets! These are things you should be proud of! Because most loli have gained much positivity, friends, and self esteem from this fashion.
So I ask, How has lolita changed your life?
How you present yourslef?
How you act?
Who you hang out with?
Your fashion sense?
Your sexual orientation?
For me, lolita regained my interest in fashion. I care a lot more about myself now. I used to hate anything frilly, or with bows (I would cut them off cloting I used to buy). But now I love lace and ruffles! I love how wearing lolita has regained my love for most colors to (I also used to hate pink, navy, brown, and ivory) and reaffirmed my love of knee-socks.