When I got into Lolita I explained it to my mother. While she wasn't overly excited about it, she said I could do what I wanted with my money but made it perfectly clear she thought it looked rediculous. Whenever I would squeal about a new dress that I saw or an adorable coordinate someone posted she would roll her eyes at me and tell me how silly it looks.
Once a moth or so I visit the local Goodwill and see if I can find anything that can be used for Loli purposes, and last week I found an adorable flared navy blue skirt with white polkadots and stripes around the hem that hit me perfectly at the knee, perfect for a Sailor Loli outfit. Since I'd never done sailor loli before I decided to start to build around the skirt for an outfit and bought a matching navy blue blouse from Charlotte Russe, but couldn't find any nautical motif jewerly at the mall. I went home to see what else I had that would work with the blouse and skirt, and all I had for my legs were a pair of black and white striped tights. I decided since I was just experimenting I would try them with the outfit, but I wasn't crazy about the way it looked.
I went out in the living room to show my mom and ask for her input. To my surprise she told me she didn't think the tights worked very well with the outfit, especially since striped tights are usually frowned upon with a Lolita ensemble. She suggested I just use one of my plain white lace-topped socks and make some clip-on anchor charms for them, but if I absoluely had to use the leggings then to make a black and white striped headbow to balance it out. And also I should get a big anchor necklace and a new pair of shoes. I couldn't believe how good her eye for a well-put together outfit, and she almost seemed genuinely interested. She admitted that Lolita had started to grow on her, and that she thought it was fun to help dress me up like "a little doll", even though I'm 17 years old.
I just thought I would share that, hopefully Lolita grows on some of your resistant parents too! :)