The way lolitas dress is very much tea and cake and cotton candy and kawaii and uguu. One is thought to be or feel like a princess, to feel beautiful, while wearing this particular fashion of clothing. While that is all fine and good, what exactly makes clothes change your life or your personality?
I am a fan of a lot of fashions, Lolita is definitely my favorite but what in the world makes it so special that you need to change yourself to fit this "ideal image"? I've seen many times complaints about "oh she's such a bitch, why is she wearing lolita?", "oh no she went drinking in lolita how gross!" etc. Fact of the matter is, lolita is just a clothing choice at the end of the day, and people will always be themselves. I don't believe it is natural or even.. sane to change your lifestyle to fit what you are wearing.
If any of you believe that you should fit into what you wear, please feel free to hash open a discussion, because I am honestly confused! I normally don't care and go about my way but my curiosity as to what makes people flip the switch from "this is me" to "this is what i should be" because of a style of clothing has overcome me.