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Interview with a Lolita's boyfriend: a guys perspective  
6th-Dec-2012 10:39 am
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So over the past 8 years I've been stalking egl, I have seen many posts asking what do your boyfriend/husband/significant other/etc. think of lolita. I've seen even more submissions on various secret sites about people longing for love and how its impossible to find it while dresses this strange fashion.

So, wince it is a topic that is brought up quite often, I decided to interview my boyfriend about lolita and his thoughts about this fashion I've surounded myself with, and thought other lolitas would like to hear a non alternative fashion boyfriend's thoughts.

And if anyone else decides to do the same I'd love to watch! ;D

Here's the link to the interview. I'm on my phone and can't figure out how to embed the video on here :/

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6th-Dec-2012 08:16 pm (UTC)
That was delightful! You're lucky to have such a patient, awesome boyfriend. :D

When I first discovered Lolita a couple of months ago (still basically a Loli-in-training here) my girlfriend was at first very excited, then misconceptions kicked in and she got worried that she wouldn't find me attractive in Lolita because of the youth aspect. Now, though, when I Skype her in the clothes I have so far, she's floored by how pretty I look. :3
6th-Dec-2012 09:40 pm (UTC)
Aww that's so cute! I'm really glad it worked out for you too! C: at times I feel a bit silly depending on how others treat me, but I feel even more confident knowing the person I love thinks I look pretty! <3
6th-Dec-2012 11:59 pm (UTC)
this was so funny, i loved it!
7th-Dec-2012 07:09 am (UTC)
Im glad it was as funny to you as it was me! I had so much fun! XD
7th-Dec-2012 02:23 am (UTC)
This was very interesting to watch!
7th-Dec-2012 07:12 am (UTC)
Glad you enjoyed! :D
7th-Dec-2012 04:46 am (UTC)
You guys are sooo cute together! I love this so much. You are really lucky to have such a great guy. I'm so glad you made a video of this. My fiance' is very supportive I'm pretty lucky but I have seen guys not be as supportive so it's really nice to see a video out there now showing how a guy can be supportive of his girl and her frills.
7th-Dec-2012 07:16 am (UTC)
I'm glad you liked it! I'm so happy to hear you have a supportive partner as well! I agree I've seen/heard of too many un-supportive signifigant others! Especially how some family looks down on the fashion weather for the name, or just because it looks unusual, it helps so much when a lover can give their full support weather they like the fashion or not. I'm just greatfull mine is both! XP
7th-Dec-2012 11:45 am (UTC)
Ha that was so cute, I will have to see if my boyfriend will let me interview him on his thoughts about Lolita :)
7th-Dec-2012 04:57 pm (UTC)
Adorable! And it's always nice to see someone's perspectives on lolita when they are NOT a lolita.

When my boyfriend and I first started dating, I barely wore lolita. He didn't even see me in it for months, mainly because I barely had any to wear and luck would have it that he just wasn't around the days I did wear it. He was very supportive, having been somewhat familiar with lolita (a lot of his friends like 'kawaii culture', so it came up every once in a while), and even bought me a Bodyline dress for my birthday. I wear lolita every day now and he's pretty much thrilled; he loves it!

I've found a lot of guys actually do like lolita and don't mind a girl who wears it, same for other girls, too. I've never really believed in that whole "you'll never find someone to love you when you look like that!" thing no matter how many times my mother tried to make me believe it. Haha.

I think we definitely all should interview our significant others, even if it's just a text interview, and try to compile it somewhere. It'd be interesting to see if more women are accepting of it or more men, and which styles they tend to be more accepting of. Also, I'd like to see if age has anything to do with it (would older significant others be more embarrassed about it or more accepting of it in comparison to younger ones? does this depend on the style?).

I know for a fact my boyfriend isn't really a fan of more OTT styles, or even simpler sugary sweet styles. He's a classic fan, and he likes more old school sweet. But he still doesn't mind when I do wear the sugary sweet lolita pieces. (He can't wait until I switch to classic, though!)

You've given me some food for thought with this cute video!
8th-Dec-2012 03:37 am (UTC)
I think a compilation of SO interviews would be fun. :D I'd need to spend more time around my girlfriend *in* Lolita, though, because I'm only just getting started and she's used to seeing me in t-shirts and jeans.
8th-Dec-2012 04:45 am (UTC)
I really think this would be fun to do if we could get enough people in on it! It would have to depend.

Yeah. That's how it was with my boyfriend and I. I wore lolita maybe once a month at first and he was used to me in jeans and tees or casual skirts and tees. The whole wearing lolita all the time is still new to him and he still seems a bit surprised when I show up all dressed up. Haha. But he's getting used to it!
9th-Dec-2012 09:00 am (UTC)
Id really love to see more SO opinions! Even if they really don't like the fashion, I think it's really interesting to hear others opinions on it! C:
9th-Dec-2012 08:11 pm (UTC)
I fully agree; I'd love to see more! And especially from ones who DON'T like the fashion. Because then there's a whole new set of why's.
7th-Dec-2012 07:41 pm (UTC)
What a cute idea! I am having a hard time watching it because it's hard to hear, so maybe keep that in mind for your next video. Maybe I will interview my SO about lolita too!! XD
11th-Dec-2012 01:49 am (UTC)
My boyfriend and I watched your interview together. It was a lot of fun, and he kept asking me all sort of questions during the interview about various loli things. He likes it when I wear lolita. In his words, "the poof is adorable." Stay awesome, guys.
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